5 Signs Your Ex Is Still Energetically Connected to You (And What It Means)

I'll never forget the reading I did for a client about six months ago - she was happy for me to share her story, though I've changed the names for privacy. Let's call her Lisa. She'd been broken up with her ex Jake for nearly a year, but she kept having the strangest experiences. She'd wake up at 3am thinking about him for no reason. Her phone would buzz and she'd just "know" it was him before she even looked. Sometimes she'd feel inexplicably sad or anxious, only to find out later that something difficult had happened in his life that same day.

"Am I going mad?" she asked me during our session. "My mates think I'm obsessed, but this feels like more than just missing him."

She wasn't going mad at all. What Lisa was experiencing were classic signs of an energetic connection that was still very much alive. And after doing thousands of readings, I can tell you that these connections don't just disappear when a relationship ends - especially when there were strong feelings involved.

So how do you know if you're still energetically linked to your ex? Here are the five signs I see most often:

1. You "Know" Things About Them Without Being Told

This is probably the most common sign I hear about. You'll suddenly think about your ex, and then find out they were going through something significant at that exact time. Or you'll have a random urge to check their social media, only to discover they've just posted something important.

It's not coincidence, and it's not you being a stalker. When two people have been deeply connected, they often stay tuned into each other's emotional frequency even after the relationship ends. You're literally picking up on their energy shifts.

I had another client who kept waking up worried about her ex at around 2am. Turns out, that was exactly when he'd been having panic attacks about a work situation. She had no way of knowing this consciously, but energetically, she was still connected to his emotional state.

2. They Keep Showing Up in Your Dreams - And They Feel Different

We all dream about exes sometimes, but energetic connection dreams have a different quality to them. They feel more real, more intense. You wake up feeling like you've actually spent time with them.

Often, these dreams happen around the same time your ex is thinking about you heavily or going through something emotional. I've had countless clients tell me about vivid dreams with their ex, only to find out later that their ex was having a difficult time or was thinking about reaching out.

The dreams might be conversations you never had, or scenarios where you're both different versions of yourselves. Sometimes they're not even romantic - just a sense of connection and understanding.

3. You Feel Their Emotions (Even When You Don't Want To)

This was exactly what was happening with Lisa. She'd be having a perfectly normal day, then suddenly feel overwhelmed with sadness or anxiety that didn't belong to her. Later, she'd discover that Jake had been going through something difficult at exactly that time.

When you're energetically connected to someone, you can pick up on their emotional state without realizing it. You might feel inexplicably happy, sad, restless, or anxious, and it's actually their emotions you're feeling, not your own.

Another client of mine kept feeling bursts of excitement and nervousness every Tuesday morning. She eventually found out through mutual friends that her ex had been starting a new job on Tuesdays and was feeling anxious about it. She was literally feeling his pre-work nerves.

4. Technology Gets Weird Around Them

I know this sounds mental, but I hear about this all the time. Your phone will randomly call or text them. Their name will pop up in suggested contacts when you're messaging someone completely different. You'll accidentally like an old photo of theirs on Instagram.

It's like the universe is trying to facilitate contact between you. The energetic pull is so strong that it's actually affecting the technology around you.

I had a client whose phone kept autocorrecting random words to her ex's name. Another whose Spotify kept playing their "couple songs" even though she'd deleted all the playlists. These aren't just glitches - they're signs that the energetic connection is trying to find ways to manifest in the physical world.

5. Other People Keep Mentioning Them to You

This is the universe's way of keeping them in your awareness. You'll be having a completely unrelated conversation, and someone will bring up your ex. You'll bump into their friends or family members in random places. People will mention things that remind them of your ex to you.

When you're energetically connected to someone, the universe tends to create "coincidences" that keep you aware of each other. It's not bad luck or cruel timing - it's the connection trying to maintain itself.

What Does This Actually Mean?

If you're experiencing several of these signs, it means the energetic bond between you and your ex is still active. This doesn't automatically mean you're meant to get back together, but it does mean there's unfinished business on an energetic level.

Sometimes these connections persist because:

• The relationship ended before its natural completion
• There are lessons you still need to learn from each other
• Strong feelings were never properly processed or expressed
• You're meant to reconnect at a different time when you've both grown
• The connection needs healing rather than ending

But Here's the Important Bit

Just because you're still energetically connected doesn't mean you should drop everything and try to get back together. These connections can sometimes keep us stuck if we don't understand what they're really about.

In Lisa's case, the connection was there because she and Jake both had healing work to do around trust and communication. The energetic link was keeping them aware of each other while they each worked on themselves separately. About eight months later, they did reconnect, but as much healthier versions of themselves.

For other clients, the connection has been there to help them understand what they really want in a relationship, or to give them closure they never got.

What You Can Do About It

If you're experiencing these signs and it's causing you distress or keeping you stuck, you have options:

If the connection feels positive and you sense there might be potential for healthy reconnection, you could consider energy work to help clear any blocks or fears that might be preventing that reconnection from happening naturally.

If the connection feels draining or is preventing you from moving forward, cord cutting can help you release the energetic ties so you can both move on properly.

If you're not sure which is right for your situation, a reading can help you understand what the connection is really about and whether it's worth nurturing or releasing.

The key is being honest about whether this energetic connection is helping you grow or keeping you stuck.

Lisa's story had a happy ending because she was brave enough to look at what the connection was really telling her, rather than just hoping it meant they'd get back together. Sometimes the universe keeps us connected to people not to torture us, but to show us something important about ourselves or our path.

Experiencing these signs with your ex? Get clarity on what your energetic connection really means and whether it's time to nurture it or release it. Book a love reading to understand what the universe is trying to tell you. Book with Sarah Today ♡